The shrine at the Meditation Day at Parkwood on Sunday 20th November 2022
On Sunday 20 th November 2022, Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni conducted a Meditation Day at Whaleback Girl Guide Hall (on the premises of Whaleback Golf Course), Parkwood.
The Meditation Day was to mark the First Death Anniversary of Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri. Forty lay supporters including three of Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri’s support workers attended the Meditation Day.
Ravi and Jamila De Silva and their family offered dana that day for all participants.
Ramani Gunasekera offered the hiring of the hall.
Dilusha and Purnima Silva were the Meditation Day coordinators and Chrissie Anderson, Jo Bower, Chandrika and Mohan Perera were our volunteers.
Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni and Ravi, Jamila and family who offered the dana for all the participants at the Meditation Day on 20th Noember 2022 at Parkwood.Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni with the support workers and volunteers who helped to look after Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni TheriAyya Seri Bhikkhuni with the support workers and volunteers who helped to look after Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni TheriAyya Seri Bhikkhuni Theri and the participants at the Meditation Day to mark the first death anniversary of Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri on 20th November 2022. Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni with two of the support workers at the Meditation Day on 20th November 2022 at Parkwood.
Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni attended a small private dana at Purnima and Dilusha Silva’s house on Friday 28 th October 2022. The dana was offered to honour Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri and to celebrate what would have been her 70 th birthday.
Ayya Seri Bhikkhuni and the supporters at the dana on 28th October 2022.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was admitted to ‘palliative care at home’ in June 2021. Even though she was very sick, she enjoyed all the small ordinary things in life.
She would choose the Dhamma talk whenever we listened to the talks together.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was thrilled every time we took her out in the wheelchair to the shrine of Patacara Bhikkhuni Hermitage. She always took the opportunity to offer incense to the Buddha with my help, even though I nearly burnt her head with the incense! Her face lit up whenever I put the Buddha’s relic on top of her head.
She was very happy when we took her to see the Bodhi Tree in the garden. We wheeled her next to the Bodhi tree and let the Bodhi leaves touch and swing on top of her head.
She loved seeing and smelling the roses in the garden. She also enjoyed smelling, touching and watching the lemons grow on the lemon tree.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was in audience and gave her full attention at the private and personal ukulele concert in the back garden. It was performed by her long-time friend, Brenda, who was visiting from Sydney.
Her eyes were soft and gentle when her hands touched the doggy friends who visited her in the driveway of the Hermitage.
She used her expressive eyes, eyebrows and hands to communicate, and to find out how we were doing. The physiotherapist always appreciated Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri’s show of concern and care. Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri gave her full attention in listening to our stories with lovingkindness.
She always delighted whenever someone read to her. She enjoyed listening to suttas, stories, poems or news from the newspapers.
I learned a lot about being fully present in every moment in front of us. I also learned about the kindness, the gentleness and the appreciation of the small things in life.
I started the monastic life in June 2002 and spent my first Rains Retreat at the monastery. Before I entered the monastic life, I only had the experience of a few weekend retreats and a three-day stay at the Nuns’ Monastery.
I used to work six days a week. I enjoyed regular coffee and lunch outings at cafés, shopping and relaxing with friends. When I entered the monastic life as a trainee, I was unplugged from ‘normal’ life and planted into the monastery in the middle of the bush. There was no electricity (except the main Nuns’ Cottage), no television, no music, having only breakfast and lunch and consuming food that I was not used to. I lived with other trainees who were strangers to me. It was very challenging.
During my first three months of the Rains Retreat in 2002, Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri had scheduled at least once a month, a week of intensive group meditation practice. One afternoon of the intensive retreat, I had had enough and could not meditate anymore. I pleaded with Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri and asked her: “Please, please, please, can we not have a meditation session this evening? Can we listen to a talk instead? Please. I cannot meditate this evening anymore.”
I could not remember the response from my teacher. I just remembered her smile. We did not have meditation session on that evening. We listened to a talk. I was surprised by my teacher’s compassion and kindness. I was very relieved!
I went on a pilgrimage to India as a nun with Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri in 2006. One of our group’s pilgrims was sick and she had to be off loaded from the flight in Mumbai to go to the hospital.
Before the flight took off again, all of us had to identify our luggage. This was to avoid unidentified objects such as a bomb deposited on the flight.
Suddenly, a custom officer came into the middle of the flight and asked for the owner of an unidentified luggage. The whole plane was in dead silence. I could feel the tension and fear in the air.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was sitting next to me. She pointed out to me that the group was feeling relieved as the sick pilgrim was off loaded and was going to get the help she needed. However, we might be the one to be blown up by a bomb inside the unidentified luggage on our ‘safe’ flight.
Life could change in a matter of seconds. It was a great lesson in the three characteristics of all phenomena: Dukkha (suffering), Annica (impermanence) and Anatta (non-self).
During our pilgrimage to India in 2006, we visited the New Delhi Museum to pay respect to the Buddha’s relic. The tour leader kindly prepared two bouquets of flowers, one for the monks and one for the nuns to be offered to the Buddha’s relic for the forgiveness ceremony at the museum. However, one of the bouquet of flowers was missing during the time we were inside the museum.
We had our forgiveness ceremony as a group led by the monks. As we were just about to leave, the tour leader found the other bouquet of flowers. I held the flowers in my hand, while the pilgrims from our group, as well as the pilgrims from Sri Lanka present in the hall, came to touch the flowers to join in the offerings.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri led the offering of flowers ceremony and chanted the gatha, like we did in the monastery regularly:
Pujemi Buddham kusumena’nena Puunena-m-etena ca hotu mokkham Puppham milayati yatha idam me Kayo tatha yati vinasa-bhavam.
This bouquet of flowers, Beautiful, fragrant and excellent, I offer at the holy lotus feet Of the noble lord of sages
With these flowers I venerate the Buddha, By this merit may I gain liberation. As these flowers fade and wither So will my body be destroyed.
It was a magical and inspiring moment. Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri and I had the opportunity to offer flowers with our own hands to the Buddha’s relic and chanted the gatha in a sea of white clothed pilgrims.
We bowed down to the Lord Buddha with great respect, gratitude and faith.
Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was diagnosed with Multi System Atrophy, a degenerative neurological condition in February 2011. She needed high intensity care for her daily activities due to her disability especially during the last few years of her life. However, she was always equanimous and gracefully accepting her predicament.
I was her disciple for the last 23 years. Her only companion in monastic life and the full-time caregiver in the last eleven and a half years. I had not experienced or felt from Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri any ill will towards anyone. She was always polite and grateful for all the assistance that she received and patiently waited for the help. Even the physiotherapist was amazed by her equanimity and positivity. She told the physiotherapist she was feeling 6 out of 10 during the last week of her life.
She was also extremely considerate to others and full of lovingkindness.
One time, someone was taking me out to get a pair of shoes. She told me that she could not walk anymore and did not need any more shoes. She asked me to choose whatever was most suitable for me and not to worry about being frugal. She said I could get a pair of shoes for the both of us. I nodded. I paid respect to her before I left. When I turned around and walked out, I had tears in my eyes.
On 15th October 2021, Ajahn Brahm visited Patacara Bhikkhuni Hermitage in Jane Brook. He came to see Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri who was admitted into Palliative Care at Home.
At that time, Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri asked not to be taken to the hospital anymore. Before Ajahn Brahm left, he asked her whether there was anything she would like to say to him or ask him.
I took out the spelling chart that was filled with the alphabets from A to Z and let Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri spell out her sentence. Since she was no longer able to speak, she squeezed my hand if she wanted to spell out a letter.
After some hard work, her sentence was: “Please look after A”. Ajahn Brahm guessed Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri wanted to say to him: “Please look after Ayya Seri.” She squeezed my hand.
I burst into tears. Ayya Vayama Bhikkhuni Theri was very weak and fragile at this time. She could have asked for a blessing or any other questions, but she was concerned about my well-being. I was very touched by her lovingkindness, compassion and care. She passed away five weeks later on 20th November 2021.
Patacara Bhikkhuni Hermitage 